Military Divorce and Separation

Military Divorce and SeparationMilitary Divorce and SeparationEach U.S. military service has regulations that require members to provide adequate untersttzung to family members. However, without a court buchung, the military cant compel a member to pay helfende hand. Exactly what constitutes adequate supportdiffers among the services, and each branch enforces its rules a little differently. Heres how support payments are handled across the various branches. Army Family Support Rules Army Regulation 608-99, Family Support, Child Custody and Paternity, requires a soldier to provide an amount equal to the basic housing allowanceat the with dependent rate, unless a court order or written agreement provides for a different amount. If the soldier has more than one support obligation, that amount is divided equally among the supported parties. This is bedrngnis an absolute requirement, however the regulation contains provisions that allow the commander to waive requirements in certain c ases, such as when the spouse makes more money than the soldier, if the soldier is a victim of abuse, or if the family member is in jail. Air Force Family Support Rules Air Force Instruction 36-2906, Personal Financial Responsibility,does not specify a dollar amount for adequate support. In the absence of a written agreement or court order, adequate support is determined by the individual commander, based on the circumstances. Navy and Marines Family Support Rules The Naval Personnel Manual Section 1754-030 provides the following guidance to commanders for determining adequate support in the event of a nonsupport complaint, where there is no court-ordered amount, nor written agreement. Spouse only 1/3 of gross paySpouse and one minor child 1/2 of gross paySpouse and two or more children 3/5 of gross payOne minor child 1/6 of gross payTwo minor children 1/4 of gross payThree minor children 1/3 of gross pay Gross pay includes base pay and basic allowance for housing (if entitled), but does not include hazardous duty pay, sea or foreign duty pay, incentive pay, or subsistence allowance. Punishment for Failing to Pay Support If a commander does elect to punish a military member for failing to pay support, any such administrative sanctions are protected by the Privacy Act of 1974. Therefore, the commander cannot even legally inform the complainant that the member has been punished. Defense Department Family Support Enforcement Rules In addition to individual service regulations, the Department of Defense Financial Management Regulation prohibits payment of the basic allowance at the with-dependent rate to members who refuse to provide adequate support to their dependents. The regulation also contains provisions to recoup any BAH payments already made for periods of nonsupport. The best way of ensuring you receive spouse/child support from a military member is by obtaining a court order. If the member still fails to pay, you can return to court and obtain a garnishment or involuntary allotment order. This order allows you to have the support payments taken directly out of the members pay, through the Defense Finance and Accounting Service (DFAS), completely bypassing the military chain of command. Keep in mind, however, that service members have certain legal protections under theServicemembers Civil Relief Act. For example, if a service member cannot appear in court due to military necessity (if the member is deployed or assigned overseas), and the commander certifies that leave is not possible, the court must grant a 90-day stay (delay) in any court action. Upon application to the court, the member can request that such stays be extended. Its best to make your complaint in writing. If you dont know where the member is stationed, you may have to use one of the militaryslocator services. Another option is to call the base locator. Each military base operates a locator service, which can release (nonprivacy act) informatio n about military members assigned to that base. Whether you elect to write or call, keep your communication unemotional and to the point. Simply state that your spouse is failing to make support payments as required by agreement, court order, etc., if applicable and military regulations, and youre requesting assistance to obtain the required support. Include all facts related to the support (date of separation, date member stopped providing support, and so on). Garnishment and Involuntary Allotments There are only two ways to involuntarily take money from a servicemembers pay for spousal support (alimony) or child support, and both methods require legal action Federal law authorizes garnishment against the pay of military members to enforce child support and alimony in accordance with state law. Garnishments may be placed against the pay ofactive-duty, Reserve, Guard, and retired military members. The procedure to obtain a garnishment order is determined by state law. However, f ederal law determines how the garnishment order is applied to military pay, that is, how service or process is accomplished, the type of pay subject to garnishment, and so forth. Unless state law specifies a lesser amount, federal law provides a limit of 50 percent of the members aggregate disposable earnings for any workweek if the member is currently supporting a second family (spouse or child) and 60 percent if the member is not supporting a second family. The percentage may be increased by 5 percent if the arrearage is 12 weeks or more. Federal Statutory Allotments for Child Support and Alimony Federal law authorizes allotments from active-dutymilitary payin order to satisfy child support and alimony obligations. Alimony alone does not qualify under this law. These statutory allotments may only be paid from active-duty pay. A statutory allotment may be initiated when child support and alimony payments are at least two months in arrears. Allotments cannot exceed 50 percent of a members pay and allowances if the member is supporting a second family. If the member is not supporting a second family, the allotment may not exceed 60 percent.

These are the 9 signs you are dating a psychopath

These are the 9 signs you are dating a gefhrlicher irrerThese are the 9 signs you are dating a psychopathA somewhat common response, when asked why you broke up with someone, is to say your ex is a psychopath (or maybe thats just me?) but with the recent release and buzz around the Netflix filmExtremely Wicked, Shockingly Evil and Vileabout the life of psychopath serial killer Ted Bundy (played by Zac Efron) you may wonder if you actually ever dated a psychopath? The film takes the perspective of Bundys romantic partner,Elizabeth Kloepfer (played by Lily Collins), whom he was in a relationship with for six years.Of course psychopaths do only makeup 1% of the population but they tend to favor certain states over others (watch out if you live in Connecticut, California and New Jersey.) So there is always a chance you may run into one or even find yourself in a relationship with one of them. Here are the signs to look for.Follow Ladders on FlipboardFollow Ladders magazines on Flipboard covering Happiness, Productivity, Job Satisfaction, Neuroscience, and more1. They are very charismaticDo you know those people who just draw you in? Well, that could be a psychopath. The most exciting thing for me was being able to sort of lend that Ted Bundy charisma to the part, Efron toldE nachrichtensendung of his recent role. I hope thats what comes across the most The most interesting and exciting thing for me to contribute to the movie was Ted had this thing about him, this facade, his charm, and the way that he worked with people. But all through the charm is manipulation.Ce Anderson, therapist and author ofLove TAPS,says, I cannot stress enough how strategic and manipulative and charismatic these individuals are, all the while weaving an intricate trap,2. They are pathological liarsWere not talking the occassional white lie. We mean constant lying. They have to be lying all the time in order to hide their behaviors. This is one of the defining characteristics of a psychopa th.3. The relationship moves very fastYes, it is normal, especially for older people, to have their relationships move at an accelerated speed but with psychopaths, that isnt a good thing because it is about control and invasion. There is an agenda behind it. David Gillespie, author ofTaming Toxic People The Science of Identifying and Dealing With Psychopaths At Work and At Home said, They will seem absolutely perfect. Upfront, they will tell you exactly what you want to hear and they will be exactly what you want to be. They will be the best lover youve ever had, the most sharing person.4. They bring in a third party (triangulation)After they make you feel like you are the only person in the world they bring someone else in to complicate things and make you not feel like that anymore. Usually it is an ex of some kind to reinforce that other people want them and you should be so grateful to have them.5. They expect the bestWell after all the abuse you just heard about this one may m ake you feel good (except for the fact that you are dating a psychopath) but psychopaths believe they deserve the best. They want the best looking person in the room, the most desirable and they believe that is you. They are arrogant to an extreme and think they deserve extreme success.6. They gaslight youIf you started this relationship feeling confident and now feel completely worthless there is a strong chance this person had a lot to do with it. Gaslighting means they are little by little diminishing your confidence. It can be very subtle. They know how to find your vulnerable areas and pray upon them.7. There is no real emotional attachmentPsychologist John M. Grohol, founder of Psych Central writes, They form artificial, shallow relationships designed to be manipulated in a way that most benefits the psychopath. People are seen as pawns to be used to forward the psychopaths goals. Psychopaths rarely feel guilt regarding any of their behaviors, no matter how much they hurt othe rs.8. They trap youAs part of that accelerated relationship, they will make sure you are controlled so it would be very difficult for you to escape whether this be through joint bank accounts or moving in with you immediately.9. They make you feel grateful for themThroughout the relationship, they have mostly isolated you from your social circle and friends. This makes you more focused on them and also you start to see them as the only thing you can rely on.Dr. Perpetua Neo wrote for Mind, Body, Green, This loving creature is the last person youd expect to hurt you. Unfortunately, theyre a master of manipulation, having spent their entire life perfecting the art of playing people like puppets. The transgressions grow bigger their refrain that youre crazy and ungrateful becomes stronger. A lie, repeated often enough, feels like the truth. As you feel more disconnected from others, they tell you you should be grateful theyre mucksmuschenstill there in your life.You might also enjoyNew neuroscience reveals 4 rituals that will make you happyStrangers know your social class in the first seven words you say, study finds10 lessons from Benjamin Franklins daily schedule that will double your productivityThe worst mistakes you can make in an interview, according to 12 CEOs10 habits of mentally strong people

Are You an Intrapreneur What That Means for Your Job Search

Are You an Intrapreneur What That Means for Your Job SearchAre You an Intrapreneur What That Means for Your Job Search00First, lets define the term intrapreneur. An intrapreneur is an employee who, though they work for another persons company, shares some of the best qualities of an entrepreneur.Intrapreneurs are employees who are self-starters, who take initiative, who ask questions and try new things, and who inspire the people around them to do the same. Thats all well and good for people who are already employed, but what does being an intrapreneur have to do with your job search?A survey by Post-it Brand about intrapreneurs and intrapreneurship brought up several interesting ideas that can apply to job seekers.Heres what being an intrapreneur means to your job searchA tischset of Skills to ShowcaseFirst, the skills and traits that define intrapreneurs can be incredibly attractive to potential employers. For some, intrapreneurship comes naturally. Whether its jumping into new pro jects without hesitation, coming up with new ideas easily, or rallying others to help, intrapreneurs have a set of skills that all job seekers should try to hone.Lets venture into the types of skills, habits, and traits that intrapreneurs (and those seeking to become them) should hone.The Post-it Brand survey identified these skills and habits of intrapreneursWriting down your new ideasBrainstorming solutions to business challenges (even if youre not explicitly asked to do so)Taking notes during meetingsWe think theseskills and habits are also highly related to intrapreneurshipAsking questions to learn how and why things work the way they doOffering your own ideasShowing support for others ideas you likeAnd David Williams, a contributor at Forbes.com, offers these essential traitsDont measure things by money (your worth, the attractiveness of a job, etc.).Germinate your ideas- grow and expand them, even if in your own mind.Know how to pivot and change course when its necessary.Behav e with confidence and humility.If you already have these skills, showcase them in your applications and interviews. If not, choose which ones you want to develop in yourself.A Set of Qualities to Look for in a Job or CompanyIf intrapreneurship is important to you, try to identify companies that support and foster these types of skills in their workplaces. An intrapreneurial culture is one that rewards people for digging in, asking questions, putting forth ideas, offering solutions, etc.How can you identify an intrapreneur-supportive company?Pay attention to a companys social media posts, its culture or work environment webpages, and what its employees say about the company on Glassdoor. Read the job description carefully for clues as to the type of person itslooking to hire, and how itdescribes both the role and the work environment.Youll be able to discern whats most important to thecompany, and whether itlikes to hire and develop intrapreneurs.Readers, what do you think about intr apreneurship? Do you identify as an intrapreneur? Leave a comment and let us know